By guest blogger and yoga teacher - Tiffany Mendel
Hmmm #selflove, what does this mean? It's certainly not a #selfie. A term that's thrown around and a kind of new agey action/experience that is expected regardless to the fact we are continually subliminally guided to self hate. Oh the irony. "You must practice self love", we occasionally hear, well yes you must, you really must. Self love is inherent in all of us, it's there from the start, the very essence of our being is love.
We live in a society that subtracts, diverts and shatters the very idea of self love into broken pieces we then spend our lives trying to fix, usually in the wrong and most unhealthy ways. Toxicity becomes a way to live, to be toxic; with food - with relationships.
Bombarded with adverts from fashion, beauty and the fitness and yoga 'industries' and the rest. They tell us we need something we haven't got, that we require more, that we need and that we are not enough. That we are not good enough. They want our money and our energy to make money, more money, more destruction. We are provoked and persuaded to grasp, to reach out away from ourselves, to externalise. To shop, to drink, to eat crap. To externalise everything.
We are taught to sit from the moment we are born, yet our bodies are not made for sitting, to where shoes that manipulate our very foundations and to not drink our mothers milk that was made for our very own individual growth.
We are taught to be still and quiet at school forgetting we are a species, an animal and should be embodied and move with ease each time we feel to move.
To speak when we feel to communicate, it's our God given right for free speech and expression, to tune into who we are in each and every moment.
Junk food is more obtainable than health food and drugs are shovelled out by the second to 'fix' these needs, to fix dis-ease. Discomfort. Disfunction.
This economy requires our cooperation, it requires our disembodiment. Money is the driving force.
So where do you go from here? From this conditioning that removes the very notion of self love, that keeps you on this tred mill.
You pause, pause, you practice and keep practicing. You move, everyday and lots, eat well everyday, enough. You observe your compulsions, observe your desires -your distractions, observe each moment you feel soft and gentle, strong and grounded & build upon that. You embrace nature, for it is central to our existence. Shop kindly when you need to and respect our planet and who else is living upon it.
Take up meditation, dance, yoga, martial arts, painting, singing and invest fiercely at being embodied; at being in YOUR body. Your lighthouse.
You then inspire others by the sheer radiation of your light, your embodied being. Your presence. This energy transcends & encourages others and forms action.
Positive action and yes influence this very society, our society that so actively encourages this needy brokenness. Encourage the need for embodiment. Be-in-your-body. Normalise being in your body. Being balanced, grounded, strong and peaceful.
Start now from where you stand, breathe, feel your feet upon the ground, spread out your toes. Feel your spine lift and lengthen as your pelvis releases down. Feel your chest open and expand. Feel your shoulders soften and release the weight of the world you have been carrying. Feel your face relax, feel your eyes become spacious and the crown of your head rise up. Stand tall. Feel all of that and breathe. Simply feel and B R E A T H E .